Men Overcompensate When Masculinity Is Threatened maybe testosterone poisoning involved too?
Q. Yes folks, you heard it here FIRST from us feminazi s on Yahoo G&WS and now the evidence suggests it s true: Threaten a man's masculinity, and he will assume more macho attitudes, according to a study by a Cornell University researcher. "Masculine overcompensation is the idea that men who are insecure about their masculinity will behave in an extremely masculine way as compensation "Masculinity-threatened men also reported feeling more ashamed, guilty, upset and hostile than did masculinity-confirmed men,"states Willer's report, "Overdoing Gender: Testing the Masculine Overcompensation Thesis." Willer said he and a colleague are planning additional research on subjects' attitudes regarding violence toward women, [cont.]
Asked by Object Of It's Ire - Fri Aug 17 05:56:54 2007 - Gender & Women's Studies - 14 Answers - Comments

A. An interesting find you have there. However, what is meant by testosterone poisoning? I didn't know that testosterone was a poison. As a matter of fact I'm pretty sure that it has no scientific basis at all. On the other hand I find the results of this study intriguing. It seems that when males are "insecure about their masculinity [they] will behave in an extremely masculine way as compensation" after their masculinity is called into question. Seems like they tested those men who have a problem with their maleness. They might act this way because, when their masculinity is attacked, they feel the need to assert their masculinity so as to avoid being ostracized by other men (maybe even some women). Our minds usually know what sex… [cont.]
Answered by Fortis cadere cedere non potest - Sat Aug 18 20:02:10 2007

Help with the theme men and masculinity?
Q. So both my books The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemmingway and Slaughterhouse five by Kurt Vonnegut have a theme of men and masculinity. and so one of my book reports i put for the theme "men and masculinity" and she writes "what about it" and so, now i dont know what to say. Like what do I say about it? If could help, thanks :) I have to do a term paper on this common theme between the books.
Asked by kayla - Mon Apr 26 18:16:36 2010 - Books & Authors - 1 Answers - Comments

A. Slaughterhouse-Five really foregrounds the unattractive, absurd realities of male bodies under stress. In The Sun Also Rises, the insecurity of the central male characters produces an atmosphere of competition.
Answered by augie6_1 - Wed Apr 28 07:50:21 2010

Why does it seem like trans gender male to female hate men and masculinity?
Q. I just finished watching this youtube video that described masculinity as a "virus", as a man I find this highly offensive, he/she defines themselves as pansexual and states masculinity in males and lesbians as a virus and says feminine is more "human". If their hatred of masculinity reflective of a cultural bias or do people actually believe this.
Asked by - Mon Nov 30 09:23:12 2009 - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 5 Answers - Comments

A. well...masculinity is certainly not a virus, but...for mtf transsexuals it can feel like that sometimes. if you try to understand how offensive being thought of as male would be to any woman...whatever her origin...then you might be able to understand where some of the bitterness towards that gender comes from. we eat, sleep and drink masculinity for so long to the point of just sheer disgust. it's really not men we hate so much as it is being men...or perceived as men. sometimes the differentiation can take a little more energy than just hating all things male...so...sometimes WE do it. guilty as charged much love and hope. pj
Answered by pj - Mon Nov 30 10:56:13 2009

What can this quote mean, when I talk about men and masculinity?
Q. Here is the quote, "Women who are inducted into masculinity hierarchies are exported tissue, in constant danger of provoking an inflammatory response and summary rejection." I say it means that a woman who is involved with a man, who thinks highly of himself, can be in danger of provoking anger from him and getting hurt. But I am not sure. Help please. =)
Asked by - Thu Mar 10 21:42:28 2011 - Quotations - 1 Answers - Comments

A. "masculinity heirarchies" is almost certainly broader than two-person relationships. I'd be thinking of women who enter very masculine professions, such as the law, engineering, pro-sports etc. -- if the culture remains very blokey, a boys' club, women tread on eggshells and can't put a foot wrong without being booted from the club. The standard is higher for women in engineering or mainstream sports commentary than it is for men. Men have a little more latitude in those areas. Women less so, because they're still outsiders, or a minority voice in an unchanged (or slowly changing) culture that has traditionally excluded them.That kind of hting.
Answered by Clare - Thu Mar 10 21:58:47 2011

Do you personally believe that "masculinity" in men is dying out slowly in society?
Q. It seems like more and more often, the idols of "Man/Boy/Male" is being changed from the early depiction of muscles, large frames and facial hair, to (what I consider), to be men who are as feminine as they can get while still appearing as male. In my own parent's day, men were expected to be large-framed, rugged and forceful. Today, they are dumbfounded by what women are starting to go for: tall, skinny and effeminate men. I have noticed this trend as well, and it appears to be generational. Why do you think this is occurring today? Thanks for any answers/comments you have.
Asked by - Sun Apr 8 00:40:55 2012 - Gender & Women's Studies - 14 Answers - Comments

A. You can blame their mothers for that.The fathers should be out working and the mothers are at home teaching the boys what? It's the Women's Fault. Once again they are ruining the world.
Answered by Devilia - Sun Apr 8 01:16:13 2012

Feminism has helped women break free from being "feminine". But what saves men from the masculinity stereotype?
Q. I am a very "feminine" male. Some have even called me "metro" because I have an interest in women's fashion (and I'm actually pretty good at putting outfits together). But it seems like most of America (including my wife) still believe in the stereotype that is "Masculinity"... I'm not allowed to express my feelings, I'm not allowed to be sensitive, I'm not allowed to cry, I'm not allowed to enjoy dancing shows... Actually, if you want to know what society thinks it takes to be a man, google "man card" and just read up on it; but the odds of you just knowing what I'm talking about is pretty good... If my wife doesn't abide by the feminine stereotype, and by this I mean she doesn't wear heels, skirts,… [cont.]
Asked by - Thu Dec 15 12:34:00 2011 - Marriage & Divorce - 15 Answers - Comments

A. Your wife must brag that she never has to worry about you leaving up the seat.
Answered by - Thu Dec 15 12:41:50 2011

Why are effeminate men so popular in Japan?
Q. I mean, doesn't that completely contradict what women want in a man: masculinity? I'm not talking about hairy lumberjacks, but I'm also not talking about all these "Idols" that wear makeup, pretend to kiss other guys, or squeeze into tight and flamboyant outfits. Is this just a phase for young Japanese men? Does it stem from the possibility of "rebelling" against the older, more conservative generation? I mean, compared to Korea or China, Japan has more feminine men, in my opinion.
Asked by Rutgers Student - Wed Nov 4 18:38:20 2009 - Japan - 6 Answers - Comments

A. There is no need to be "masculine" in the current Japanese society. You are always required to "smile" while you are working, but no need to do something masculine. And at schools, they just teach their kids to study. But not to be masculine. Korean men must serve military for 2-3 years. I think that makes them more masculine than before. >Does it stem from the possibility of "rebelling" against the older, more conservative generation? I don't think so.
Answered by thecheapest902 - Thu Nov 5 03:05:56 2009

Do you think Guys get JEALOUS much over the "Masculinity" of other men?? how often and why?
Q. how they seek to improve their own and how they do this? how common where you are? do they do this in japan as much as India too for any of you asians who know?..lol btw, which area of the world are you? thanks for your answers!
Asked by * - Thu Dec 17 20:44:41 2009 - Polls & Surveys - 4 Answers - Comments

A. I want to punch everyone I see that has a beard. Purely because I cannot yet grow one. I am in England.
Answered by Dale T the 2nd - Thu Dec 17 20:52:19 2009

How do men express their masculinity in this day and age?
Q. I don't know how to explain it, but I was watching some old movies like Rebel Without A Cause and A Place In The Sun. I realize those were just movies, but I have a point. The men "back in the day" were allowed to show a softer side and also seemed to have more restraint. Nowadays, MOST men are aggressive, try to look macho, always trying to prove something or impress people, hide their emotions, and don't seem to respect women. That's just some of the things I've seen... that are for whatever reason considered "masculine." What do you think?
Asked by SaraElizabeth - Mon Nov 28 04:59:43 2011 - Other - Society & Culture - 3 Answers - Comments

A. Most men? You don't get out much do you. I express my manliness by driving around in my sports car and going to heavy metal concerts and rocking out in the mosh pit. I legitimately enjoy those things so I don't think about it in terms of "expressing my manliness" but you asked and that's all I could come up with.
Answered by - Mon Nov 28 05:12:57 2011

Men's attitude regarding saying "sorry"?
Q. I am a student of masculinity and men and I try to figure out various aspects of being a man. I have noticed that it is difficult for men to say sorry to someone they know loves them, be it a parent or a friend (although attitude towards girlfriends/ wives are different in western and Indian society). For them it becomes a prestige issue a thing of ego to say sorry. Even when they know they have done wrong, they will do other things (like being nice) and expect to be forgiven. However, where they really love a person (more than the other person) and can't take the other's love for granted, there men have no qualms about saying "sorry". They are willing to bend quite a lot and leave aside their 'egos' in order to placate them What… [cont.]
Asked by Dosti - Fri Apr 6 07:25:23 2007 - Psychology - 4 Answers - Comments

A. I think we men have a lot of pride and many times that gets in the way. Many men find it unmasculine to show their feelings. I have learned through the years how healing those 2 little words can be. "I'm sorry" can heal a broken relationship with family, friends, or spouse. Men need to realize that a real man is not only strong on the outside but on the inside as well. Putting your pride aside and saying you're sorry is a sign of maturity in a man. It shows that he is comfortable with himself, his feelings and his love for those he cares about.
Answered by vanhammer - Fri Apr 6 08:02:36 2007

Following Mucky, "are men loosing their masculinity?" Are women loosing their virginity?
Q.
Asked by selractrad - Thu May 10 14:14:41 2007 - Singles & Dating - 7 Answers - Comments

A. Men: In general, no. Women: Most do eventually.
Answered by BabeHart - Thu May 10 14:17:17 2007

The Cult of Masculinity strips men of their humanity: agree or disagree?
Q. "the ideal of masculinity is a chain used to tie men into patriarchy and teach us to shut down all the most human parts of ourselves. the fact that feminists are the only ones who seem able to see this is, I think, a powerful indication of why men need feminism. Feminism is not anti-male, to the contrary it s a movement to deconstruct and oppose gender-based oppression, period. and that s something men have every bit as much a stake in as women do." Nobody is asking them to "accept feminism", lol. They have no choice in the matter. Those who cannot or will not will be selected out by evolutionary forces. Feminism by definition is a social and political movement. Why have so many respondents responding negatively,… [cont.]
Asked by Spanx for Men! - Mon Jan 12 04:25:57 2009 - Gender & Women's Studies - 16 Answers - Comments

A. It's amusing how the Cult of Masculinity is so inherently threatened by anything of the feminine nature. That is why you are getting so many negative responses. It's just the typical knee jerk reaction...
Answered by - Mon Jan 12 06:18:58 2009

What is behind some men's belief that women's rights or assertiveness detracts from a man's masculinity?
Q. I constantly see questions on here stating that men who support women's rights are sissies. Feminists want to castrate men, etc. etc. Even the book "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" written in the 60s equated "aggressive" women with castration. What kind of psychology is behind this? Do women have to submissive little shrinking violets in order for men to feel macho?
Asked by green6es - Tue Feb 24 17:01:46 2009 - Gender & Women's Studies - 9 Answers - Comments

A. Boys are often raised to gauge their competence by their domination over others instead of measuring themselves to themselves, so when they grow up, they measure their self-worth by how much better and smarter and stronger they are than whoever is around them. They don't see themselves as individually talented, it's about how much better they are than someone else. So when they see a woman "competing" with them, they try to find a way to knock her down. Remember, girls don't get to play on the boys sports teams during formative years, so boys are only used to measuring themselves against other boys. They don't want to even think about the fact that girls (women) are capable of the things that they have been competing with each… [cont.]
Answered by Scatta - Tue Feb 24 18:25:14 2009

Why Is Masculinity in Men So Unwanted Today?
Q. I would REALLY appreciate it if someone could tell me why so many women--especially teen to 20ish white females--routinely prefer guys who are hopelessly weak, feminized (or at least emasculated) and who utterly lack strength and could never play the protector role. Before anyone gives the "It's his personality" excuse, every guy like this that I've witnessed has had no better--actually a worse--personality than the next guy. A good example of what I am asking about is the bum Kourtney Kardashian had a child with. I'm sure most women would have said, "Oh, he probably treats her better," if they couldn't see for themselves the drunk, spoiled, snobby, wuss he is on TV. No woman who is actually looking for a "man" [cont.]
Asked by Raedwald - Sat Mar 6 17:31:26 2010 - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 16 Answers - Comments

A. Honestly, it's rare to see a good chivalrous guy with strong character these days. I think females have devolved as well. It's hard to find a girl/woman who is ladylike and motherly/nurturing. Humans in general have devolved. It's just plain sad. Edit: Just look at some of these replies for example. These feminazis don't appreciate strong men. I think some are intimidated by them. It's laughable that they try to be the "breadwinners" in today's society, like they can't handle successful men. Men are the natural physical protectors and should be appreciated for that. There's no need for feminzais to get disgruntled and say "I can take care of myself". It's ridiculous.
Answered by Amelie - Sat Mar 6 17:43:28 2010

do you think gay men understand masculinity better than straight men?
Q. i was having this discussion with one of my friends because he was surprised that the book "fight club" was written by a gay man, and I wasn't surprised
Asked by - Sat Aug 21 02:05:53 2010 - Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 7 Answers - Comments

A. Yes. Don't underestimate anybody who is gay. The Roman Army was made of a majority of gay men.
Answered by Flingershock (Suspended) - Sat Aug 21 02:08:47 2010

Men: what is your definition of "masculinity"?
Q. I asked this question earlier, in one of my answers. I got a lot of thumbs downs, but no explanations. So would you take pity on poor little me and explain to me exactly what being a man is all about? And I'm not talking about the biological processes involving reproduction or even, urinating against a wall.
Asked by True Blue Brit - Wed Feb 4 05:47:46 2009 - Gender & Women's Studies - 3 Answers - Comments

A. An interesting question. As a gay man, I am often told that I am too masculine to be a 'real gay'. Masculinity can have many definitions. To some it is being a responsible man, to others it's being a gung ho action type. To others it's simply a case of wearing masculine clothes and having a crew cut instead of a flouncy hair style. To me, my masculinity is defined by my self image. I see myself as a man first and foremost, not a gay man. That fact does not define me. I am physically strong though not far above average, I guess capable is more accurate to say. I am responsible in that I am the provider in my family. I am calm and level headed in a crisis and I am very pragmatic and so can often make decisions that other's might not be able… [cont.]
Answered by mat62870@yahoo.fr - Thu Feb 5 00:53:09 2009

Why do feminists dislike masculinity, and men in general ?
Q. It seems that feminists have a strong disliking for all men (except for the few cowardly ones that succumb to feminism and become "male feminists") - there have been multiple quotes by the famous feminists that have shaped feminism, such as from Andrea Dworkin (and many other feminists) who has stated that even consensual sex is an act of violence and is simply rape. She has also stated things such as marriage being derived from rape " Marriage as an institution developed from rape as a practice. Rape, originally defined as abduction, became marriage by capture. Marriage meant the taking was to extend in time, to be not only use of but possession of, or ownership. " - Andrea Dworkin "Intercourse as an act often… [cont.]
Asked by - Sat Aug 20 20:59:33 2011 - Gender & Women's Studies - 8 Answers - Comments

A. Feminism is an out dated and flawed idea. It has no place in the modern world and will soon fade away and die unmissed.
Answered by - Sat Aug 20 21:27:25 2011

Don't men want a woman who is just as tough as them?
Q. Yes. I don't think men would want to be a with a girly feminine woman. What is the point? These "feminine" women are soft and men don't like soft! If men wanted feminine, then they would not say things like, you cry like a girl, pull your skirt up, you are girly as insults. It's a man world and men want their world to be manly. Men are aggressive and tough, this is what they want in their women. They connect with women who are sassy, brash and strong minded. It's attractive and engaging. It's in a man's nature to want to be around masculinity. Men want to live in a masculine world. Women who understand that can have success with men. Femininity is seen as a weakness. How many men do you see complimenting femininity? How many men… [cont.]
Asked by - Wed Oct 13 19:19:44 2010 - Gender & Women's Studies - 7 Answers - Comments

A. If men liked toughness, they'd be with other men. Opposites attract.
Answered by Jed - Wed Oct 13 19:54:16 2010

Do you agree that men should have their masculinity redefined?
Q. So we won't be so self destructive (according to feminists). In short stop teaching boys to "not cry" or suppress emotions. How did this benefit males to begin with? @Katie Medic--What are you talking about? Yeah you got 1 part right. I got this from an answer. All the rest of that rant is useless. Can you post the answer so we all can see what was written.
Asked by TS - Thu Apr 8 02:06:49 2010 - Gender & Women's Studies - 11 Answers - Comments

A. TS, I know EXACTLY where you're going with this. Feminists are trying to redefine men to a degree to say that it's ok to cry and society will be just fine with it, I call Bullsh*t. Masculinity is defined by women just as femininity is defined by men. How much respect do you think a woman is going to have for men who cry all the time, NONE. I will give you the exact reason that feminists want it to be ok for men to cry: They want men to be more submissive, this is all there is to it. Women want to draw strength from men, they want survival options and showing weakness limits survival options, even in social situations. Do they think bullying is going to go away anytime soon? You show weakness to a bully then don't expect sympathy. Besides,… [cont.]
Answered by Don F - Thu Apr 8 11:30:28 2010

Don't you laugh sometimes when you the hear the claim "feminism benefits men too!"?
Q. Mainly because for one, feminism shouldn't be dealing with men at all. Since it's already gynocentric enough as WOMEN's movement. Yet many feminists and gender theorists feel the right to self-righteously deconstruct, criticize, trivialize and eventually demonize masculinity in men. As most of their belief systems and theories are based on archaic pseudoscientific sociological theories and their accompanying literature, almost always leading to all we are a social construct - biology having no influence whatsoever. So if children s minds are blank slates, we can then socialize into how WE as the state best see fit. Then the analogies to Marxism/Socialism come along understandably, with the underlying premises of social engineering present… [cont.]
Asked by The Dude Minds - Wed Jul 23 14:49:05 2008 - Gender & Women's Studies - 15 Answers - Comments

A. Rio are you nuts? or just plain Stupid? How in hell will the legal problems of Men be solved? Is the God Damned Tooth Fairy going to wave her Legal Wand? This posting will be deleted, of that you can count on. The Innocence Project is proving the Legal System and the Courts in the US are a travesty of justice. The Family Courts were declared Decades ago to be Kangaroo Courts by a former Supreme Court Justice Abe Fortas. And you are a top contributor? Wow another vacuous statement of illogic. This is some entertaining nonsense being spewed here. Here are the Feminist benefits to Men. Prison, Early Death, Suicide increases, wholesale removal by the Millions from our Families, massive debt, oppression and criminalization of our entire gender… [cont.]
Answered by Khankrumthebulgar - Wed Jul 23 16:02:49 2008